Relationship Counselling for Infidelity
The following are some key points to help you as you begin the journey of healing your relationship after infidelity.
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Understanding context is important.
Disclaimer: the person who committed the affair is always responsible for their behaviour. However, it’s important to understand the context of the relationship within which the affair occurred. As the details of the affair slowly make their way out, it is common for more questions to pop up. Understanding the context (i.e., the factors which contributed to the affair) can make the world, and your relationship, feel like less of an unpredictable space. These factors then become the primary targets of healing to build trust and safety again in your relationship. Couples report significant benefit from having a counsellor in the room to guide them through all of the questions that arise.
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You will build a new relationship.
One of the most common sentiments expressed by couples who are healing from infidelity is a sense of being ‘lost’. It can seem like all of the memories, locations and rituals of your relationship which used to bring warmth, now bring sadness. As you grow in understanding and grieve together, your counsellor will guide you toward the development of a new foundation for your relationship. Clear boundaries will be set regarding acceptable behaviour, communication will be deepened and trust building exercises will be integrated into daily life. While the pain of infidelity may linger and come in waves, your ‘new’ relationship together can grow stronger than it was prior to the affair.
Let us help you
At Blissful Minds, we understand how scary, painful and disorienting it can feel to experience infidelity in your relationship. As you walk into the counselling room, you will feel the emotional weight melting off of your shoulders and into the hands of our experienced, warm counsellors. Whether you have ended the relationship, made the choice to stay together or simply don’t know what to do, we are here to help. Reach out and take the first step toward healing, today.